Di episode kali ini kita ngobrol soal pacaran, nikah, dan mencari pasangan hidup di umur 20 dan 30an. Dengerin buat cari tau beberapa opini “kontroversial” tentang kumpul kebo, memilih untuk tidak punya anak, dan apa arti sebenarnya dari kompromi dalam sebuah hubungan.
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In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of love, relationships, marriage, and finding your soulmate in your 20s and 30s.
Some hot takes in this episode regarding going childless, the concept of kumpul kebo (living together with your partner before marriage, a taboo in most asian cultures), and what is the true meaning of compromise in a relationship.
(00:00) Introduction
(00:58) Differences in dating in your 20s vs your 30s
(02:17) Marrying for love as a new concept
(03:29) “Ideal age” for marriage in East Asian cultures
(04:25) Declining birth rates in South Korea and Japan
(05:25) Attitudes about dating and marriage in singapore
(06:00) the debate of going childless and why andrew thinks it’s sad to be childless
(10:02) The importance of aligning values with your partner in a relationship
(11:12) Andrew’s take on the gift of parenthood
(12:46) How much do looks matter? Looks vs. personality.
(13:33) Conflict as a result of communication breakdown in any type of relationship
(15:23) “The Nice Guy syndrome” – The difference between being nice and being kind
(20:14) Kumpul Kebo before marriage – Hot take from Andrew regarding kumpul kebo
(26:46) How to provide constructive feedback to your partner
(28:10) Attachment theories (read more here: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-attachment-theory-2795337)
(29:05) Generational trauma and differences in mental health awareness in different generations
(31:35) Do you need to heal yourself first before going into a relationship? A perspective from healthygamer.gg
(32:31) Our take on marriage
(34:08) Women didn’t have a lot of choices in war times – our grandparents experience
(37:44) The biggest loser in a divorce
(41:39) What is the meaning of compromise in a relationship?